forestpathI noticed the other day that it’s so hard to think about love.  Anytime I read/hear anything about it, my brain freezes and I feel 0% love. Totally disconnected. Awful.

After feeling a bit badly about this, (and wondering if something was wrong with me) I realized, love is a FEELING and I can’t access it in ideas and concepts. It’s not a THOUGHT.

I caught myself  in a masculine mode of thinking and doing – it’s a habit that is reinforced everywhere. Our culture inundates us with all the ways it wants us to DO loving: buy stuff.

We are taught that’s how to express love; it is not love. This default mode gets in the way of actually feeling/being  love.

So what is Love? It’s effusive, expansive, open, caring, expressive, intuitive, connected. I recognize these as qualities of Feminine Soul.  And they are magnetic. We access these feelings is in the heart, the body the being. NOT in the head. (Which is sometimes still my default–sigh.)

Through this gateway we access to Divine Union, the inner/outer marriage where the universe just hums along in perfect balance. This age-old dynamic of masculine/feminine qualities plays out in so many areas of life, not just romance, but at work, family…everywhere. But the masculine mindset has overtaken us, and if we don’t recover from it, disease and despair are close at hand.

Women are experiencing epidemic levels of stress, leading to chronic fatigue, burnout, anxiety and depression. These do little for our love-life. As our magnetism dims, we suffer the loss of passion, creativity, sensuality, aliveness. Would you rather live in love? I would!

So, how do we be magnetic to love? Soul care. Sounds cliché, but if you don’t feel good with you, who else will? When you are aligned with the truth of your soul,  you are radiantly magnetic. And if you feel less-than, won’t everyone around you  (mate, boss, kids, etc.) think you are less-than, too? I’ve seen in play out in several ways. Here are 2 examples from clients I’ve had the joy of working with:

Sara kept looking outside for love. She was super busy, so she hardly ever dated. When she did, she dated men with no time or energy for her. When we started her Bliss Breakthrough she turned her attention to her creative and soul connection, and just giving herself that time. She still wanted a relationship, but didn’t focus there.  She got clear on her blessings, gifts and direction, and found Source from the Inside-Out. Her life shifted into alignment. She left corporate burnout for a non-profit, moved to a nicer neighborhood and started taking the yoga classes she always wanted to, but never had time for. Guess who walked in? She’s engaged to Mark and they plan to marry after she finishes the grad program she started.

Cleo was married for years to a really great guy. She just couldn’t feel the magic anymore and it was killing the relationship. She worried all the time and micro-managed everything. She didn’t want to take pills and didn’t know what to do.  With her Bliss Breakthrough, her intuition, creativity and clarity increased. She got out of her head and connected with her body. A gentle sensuality started to emerge as she painted and danced again. And her passion returned.

Whether it’s a relationship you want but don’t yet have, or one that has faded after many years, it’s shifts in the inner game that matter. Your own radiance, vitality, creativity and sensuality depend on you. When you hold yourself as a goddess, the men (and women) in your life will too.

If you are interested in exploring this and how it works in your life, join me for a short workshop in Grants Pass,  on February 15.